Divine SUN

I agree that love is a beautiful thing and that we are all mirrors of each other. And because of these universal truths, it’s easy for us to forget that not every mirror is capable of giving us a great reflection.

I learned today that there are different kinds of lenses — some are great for selfies, others are better for portraits. So if you took a portrait with a selfie camera, it doesn’t make sense to blame the camera for the image not turning out right.

This is the same with people.

Some people are built to reflect your joy back at you. They are the wide-angle lens of celebration, making everything feel bigger, louder, and more alive. Others are the macro lenses  they see your details, your imperfections, and your layers.

Some are telephoto, they see you from a distance, love you from afar, unable to capture your nuances up close. And a few are just mirrors with cracks of their own, reflecting not you, but their own distortions.

It’s not always about the reflection you see , it’s about the tool you used to see yourself through someone else. Not everyone will reflect you clearly, because not everyone can.

That doesn’t mean love wasn’t present. That doesn’t mean the connection wasn’t real. It just means you were using a lens meant for something else.

Importance of beign loved the way you want.

Being loved the way you want is important because love is not just about being cared for ,it’s about being understood. Here’s why it matters:

Validation of identity: When someone loves you in the way you want, it affirms who you are and what you value, rather than forcing you to fit into their version of love.

Emotional safety: It creates a space where you feel seen, heard, and accepted without needing to perform or compromise your core needs.

Clarity and peace: Love that aligns with your needs reduces confusion, frustration, and miscommunication in relationships.

Sustainable connection: Relationships thrive when love is expressed in ways that actually nurture the people involved, not just in ways that feel natural to the giver.

Self-worth reinforcement: Receiving love in your language reminds you that your desires and boundaries matter, strengthening your confidence and sense of self.

Ultimately every loving relationship has alot of understanding and understanding is basically not doing what the other person doesn’t like and doing stuif the person likes to make them happy and not everyone would be able to get down this simple formula with you and that is the reason everyone has their own person. It’s simpler if you find someone who does.